Monday, June 22, 2009
Nights where you want to cry yourself to sleep
Well... maybe not that bad... but yeah, its been awhile since I've felt this shitty emotionally. I think on the outside I might be okay... but there seems to be a lot of inner turbulence. Things have been so busy and fulfilling these few months, so I'm not sure what's going on or even when the last time I had this feeling was. Its a lot of negativity I wish I didn't have... sleeping usually solves the problem, so good night world.
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
The fairer sex?
Thanks Puneet. This is an interesting article.
http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/06/02/my-brief-life-as-a-woman/
and a link found rummaging through the comments
http://happinessinthisworld.com/2009/05/24/the-good-guy-contract/#more-2253
and the specific blog post that makes me want to read this guys blog more and more...
http://happinessinthisworld.com/2009/05/24/the-good-guy-contract/#more-2253
It's a worthwhile read. Something I took to heart at the last taiko conference was when Shoji Kameda was talking about putting on concerts and dealing with the person he usually goes to for lighting because she's really good. He'd often get into arguments with her about the way things happen, but this is something that should be relished. Some people are hard to work with because they have a specific vision of how to do thing and are less willing to let people push them around. There are typically two types of people we tend to like to deal with: People that are good at what they do... and nice people. There are people that can be neither... but they don't really apply to this particular situation. So yeah... which would you rather be?
It doesn't mean that the two are mutually exclusive... but there will be times as discussed in the blog post where being nice will conflict with your best interests whatever that may be. Do you just cave into the people pleasing state or do you grow a backbone and stick up for what you need to?
I suppose its pretty obvious where I stand on the issue... but like everything, I am still human... I find myself in the same position as the end of that article: having to find the courage to grit my teeth and be a jerk for real (I play the jerk all the freaking time =P since its kinda in my nature to do so but that weak self-esteem still pops up from time to time)
http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/06/02/my-brief-life-as-a-woman/
and a link found rummaging through the comments
http://happinessinthisworld.com/2009/05/24/the-good-guy-contract/#more-2253
and the specific blog post that makes me want to read this guys blog more and more...
http://happinessinthisworld.com/2009/05/24/the-good-guy-contract/#more-2253
It's a worthwhile read. Something I took to heart at the last taiko conference was when Shoji Kameda was talking about putting on concerts and dealing with the person he usually goes to for lighting because she's really good. He'd often get into arguments with her about the way things happen, but this is something that should be relished. Some people are hard to work with because they have a specific vision of how to do thing and are less willing to let people push them around. There are typically two types of people we tend to like to deal with: People that are good at what they do... and nice people. There are people that can be neither... but they don't really apply to this particular situation. So yeah... which would you rather be?
It doesn't mean that the two are mutually exclusive... but there will be times as discussed in the blog post where being nice will conflict with your best interests whatever that may be. Do you just cave into the people pleasing state or do you grow a backbone and stick up for what you need to?
I suppose its pretty obvious where I stand on the issue... but like everything, I am still human... I find myself in the same position as the end of that article: having to find the courage to grit my teeth and be a jerk for real (I play the jerk all the freaking time =P since its kinda in my nature to do so but that weak self-esteem still pops up from time to time)
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